Making mom friends is hard enough in real life. Add in parenting exhaustion, busy schedules, and the fact that many of us are trying to build queer community from our own homes… and it can feel really intimidating.

Becoming a parent changes us. We know that going in, even if we don't fully understand how until we're living it. The sleep deprivation, the fierce love, the way our own childhood suddenly replays in a different light. What catches a lot of us off guard is the other transformation happening at the same time: watching our own parents, or our in-laws, become grandparents.

This is your no-fuss, real-life pumping gear guide for butch moms, queer moms, and anyone who refuses to make lactation their full personality but still needs it to function.